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Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High Conflict Divorce, And How To Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances Paperback – March 1, 2023

by Lisa Johnson (Author), Chris Barry (Author)
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Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances, offers practical advice for anyone suffering in or struggling to get out of a relationship with a narcissist or other toxic personality types. Packed with practical facts, tips and advice, this book covers everything from identifying the problem, committing to taking action, legal/custody battles to navigating a co-parenting relationship with a hostile spouse.
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"This book is the ray of hope that so many warriors need to ride out the storm and heal. The tips shared within will categorically alter the course of your own battle." - Tracy A. Malone, Coach, Author of "Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make this S*** Up!", Founder of NarcissistAbuseSupport.com

"I have over 20 years of experience as a divorce lawyer handling complex cases. I know a valuable resource for clients when I see one. If you're in a toxic marriage and want freedom, read Been There Got Out." - Raiford Dalton Palmer, Esq., Author of "I Just Want this Done: How Smart People Get Divorced Without Losing Their Kids, Money, and Minds," Managing Shareholder, STG Divorce Law, Chicago

"Lisa and Chris are passionately committed to ensuring all people have access to the best resources so that those behind them don't have to relive the nightmares they endured. This book is that handbook, that gift. Read it. Then re-read it." - Rebecca Zung, Esq., Founder of the SLAY Method

"If you feel like you're drowning in trying to navigate the messy waters of divorce or co-parenting with a toxic ex, you NEED this book!" - Chelsey Brooke Cole, Licensed Psycotherapist specializing in narcissistic abuse

"Lisa and Chris have not only each lived the experience of a toxic relationship, but they have moved through their emotions and experiences with grace and humility. As they hold your hand with compassion and love, know that this book will change your perspective and your life!" - Dr. Barb Hughson, Leadership Coach/Consultant, Family Law Mediator, Parenting Coach, and Educator

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  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Bookclick 360 Wordeee (March 1, 2023)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Paperback ‏ : ‎ 232 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 194627495X
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1946274953
  • Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 9.3 ounces
  • Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.5 x 0.53 x 8.5 inches
  • Customer Reviews:
    4.9 4.9 out of 5 stars 29 ratings

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  1. Lisa Johnson

    Lisa Johnson

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    Lisa Johnson is the co-founder of Been There Got Out, a high conflict

    divorce coach and certified domestic violence advocate who has

    successfully represented herself through scores of court appearances.

    Her case was published in the Connecticut Law Journal in March 2021

    and is now being used as legal precedent. Her live testimony helped

    pass Jennifers’ Law in Connecticut, the third state in America to

    expand its legal definition of domestic violence to include “coercive

    control.”

    She and her partner, Chris, the male half of Been There Got Out, coach

    people in high conflict relationships, divorce, custody battles, and

    co-parenting hell so they have the chance of the best outcome in

    family court and beyond. They also offer a weekly Legal Abuse Support

    Group for those dealing with narcissistic opponents in legal matters.

    Their book, "Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict

    Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances" was just

    released.

    See more on the author's page
  2. Chris Barry

    Chris Barry

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    Chris Barry is a certified high-conflict divorce coach and the co-founder (and male half) of Been There Got Out. He developed the Been There Got Out podcast, manages BTGO’s website, YouTube channel, Facebook page, and all the background technology they use to run the business. He also specializes in writing high-conflict parenting plans.

    Through their coaching program, Legal Abuse Support Group, broader community on social media, and new book, “Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances,” Chris and Lisa support and guide people in these harrowing situations so that they can avoid common mistakes and have the best chance at getting themselves (and their kids) through it all as unscathed as possible.

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5.0 out of 5 stars Best guidance during divorce from a narcissist!
Reviewed in the United States on December 19, 2023
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I could not put the book down from the moment I started it, as it so clearly described the tumultuous divorce process that I have witnessed family members experience . Lisa and Chris write in a style that is easy to understand and yet explains the legal process and the difficulties of dealing with a high- conflict divorce. They have used their own challenging experiences to help so many people! I highly recommend this book!
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Tracy A Malone
5.0 out of 5 stars If Your Goal is To Get Out With Strength and Resilience – Read This Book!
Reviewed in the United States on April 2, 2023
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I have read many books on divorcing a narcissistic partner, but this one stands out as the most insightful and comprehensive guide I have ever come across. The author's personal experiences and in-depth understanding of the topic make them the perfect guide for anyone who has been impacted by a narcissistic divorce. Through their expert analysis and practical advice, readers can expect to gain a deeper understanding of the patterns and behaviors of narcissistic abusers, as well as a roadmap for getting out. I cannot recommend this book enough - it is an absolute must-read for anyone seeking to overcome the effects of narcissistic abuse.
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painfreebeauty
5.0 out of 5 stars Wished I would’ve bought it sooner!
Reviewed in the United States on May 16, 2023
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This book has everything you need to get your through a divorce with someone who is either high conflict, or possibly a narcissist. I wished I would’ve bought it sooner, not only would it have saved me so much money, I wouldn’t have gotten out of the divorce with so little, and it would’ve helped me mentally prepare. I highly recommend this book!
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Erica
5.0 out of 5 stars Best Book out there for True Narcissist Abuse
Reviewed in the United States on April 19, 2023
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I’ve been doing a lot of self healing a research of Narcissistic Abuse. I’ve purchased many of books and listened to many podcasts. This is by far the best book I’ve read thus far and is truly eye opening. For the people that are struggling in toxic relationships, please, please read this book and follow their online platform. It will give you the strength to keep persevering 🙏🏼
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tleah
5.0 out of 5 stars The Most Helpful Book I could have Read!
Reviewed in the United States on March 7, 2023
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Chris and Lisa's book hits the nail on the head for so many of us living with domestic violence. I am so greatful to have come across this book and recommend it to anyone living with any form of narcissitic, legal and coersive abuse. I hope that this book finds other people like who are like me - in need of understanding and a community to feel that they are not alone in this. Thank you Lisa and Chris.
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Gerald Anderson
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Book for Someone Wanting to Get Out OF A Difficult Relationship
Reviewed in the United States on March 30, 2023
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The authors Lisa and Chris are both certified coaches.
This book is for people in horrible relationships and difficult legal and child custody fights.
I like the subtitle, "how to stay sane under insane circumstances"
The book has excellent advice about how to prepare for what could be a long and bumpy ride.
I highly recommend this book.
Carolyn Anderson, licensed social worker.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Stuck in an abusive relationship? Going through a high conflict divorce? This is a must read.
Reviewed in the United States on March 23, 2023
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Been There Got Out is easy to read, supportive, highly informative, and well organized. No doubt this book will save some lives! So sorry the authors had to go through such trauma to make writing this book possible. They have truly become Phoenixes rising from the ashes.
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Tracy
5.0 out of 5 stars The resource you NEED if you're divorcing someone who is high conflict
Reviewed in the United States on March 21, 2024
It's like they lived through high conflict divorce, or something. Oh wait. They did. Lisa and Chris "get it." If you're in the middle of a high conflict divorce and you're being legally abused by your ex, you need this book. You're finally going to feel like someone understands. And you're finally going to have strategies that actually work.
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